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Research also shows us, to no surprise, that the social aspect of middle school is worrisome to adolescents entering in. They wonder if they’ll make friends, lose old friends, know anyone in their class, be bullied, etc. Navigating the social setting of middle school is harrowing, and it may make your child anxious. To help your child adapt socially to middle school:

• Discuss social skills. Talk about what it means to be a good friend. Role play starting conversations with someone new and gracefully getting out of a sticky situation. Teach him to make eye contact and how to ask appropriate questions.
• Encourage your child to get involved in a group inside the school. Being part of a team or club will help your child make connections and feel like a part of this new school.
• Help your child make connections with other children outside of school as well. Having a social group outside of school, such as scouts, church, sports, or performing arts, will give your child somewhere else to turn.
• Take the time to get to know your child’s friends and their families. Host sleepovers and get-togethers both to help your child deepen her friendships and to get to know who she’s hanging around with at school. Encourage positive friendships!

Yes, peers are important to children at this stage, but as parents, we must take charge of the parent-child connection to ensure we maintain it well. This is a critical time to support your child, to maintain positive, open communication, and to be your child’s coach and encourager!  It’s a bumpy ride, so hold on! You’ll get through it together.

Rebecca Eanes is the bestselling author of multiple books including Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide, The Positive Parenting Workbook, and The Gift of a Happy Mother. She is the grateful mom of two boys.