Teach appropriate ways to deal with emotions
Once kids can express how they feel with words we can help them come up with appropriate ways to express their feelings. For some kids this may be simply talking about it. For others they may need extra snuggles or hugs. For another child, having time to be alone to sort out their thoughts and feelings or cool down gives them time they need to process their emotions so they can discuss them. When my daughter gets mad she finds it helpful to go to her room, shut the door and turn up the music. I often hear her singing as she looks at books, plays or even cleans. When she joins us again she is calmer, happier, and able to talk and interact with others calmly. My son prefers to take a walk when he is upset. The exercise and fresh air helps him settle down. Depending on the child, their current emotion, and the situation the coping skills may look very different.
As kids begin to learn to express their feelings using words and appropriate coping skills, it is important to give them positive feedback. This will help encourage them to continue to express themselves as they mature.
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Books About Feelings for Kids
