Encourage activities that teach self control
Activities like sports, music lessons, or clubs like Boy Scouts teach kids self control. Children may not always want to practice, but spending the time to work on their skills will help them become more skilled. Parents can also encourage kids to play games that teach self control such as Red Light-Green Light and freeze tag. Having children spending time in solitary activities like puzzles helps them work toward an achievable goal on their own.
Give kids responsibilities
Kids who have regular chores they are responsible for are more likely to learn self control. Young kids often need reminders to help them be successful, but older children can be trusted to get them done by a certain time each week without frequent reminders. When kids are given tasks that they do not always enjoy, they must use self control to complete them. Taking the time to figure out what motivates your child will help them be successful, reach their goals, and increase self control. For some children this may be a reward for completing assigned chores such as an allowance, an outing, or time with a parent or friend. Each child and family situation is different so it may take a few attempts to figure out what works well for your household.
Enforce limits
Setting limits for children and enforcing them is healthy for all families, but it also has the added benefit of teaching young children self control. If a child’s ball rolls in the street, they have to make a quick decision whether to run after the ball or stop and ask an adult to retrieve it. A child that waits is showing that they understand the limits their parents have set and they are exercising self control as they wait to get the ball back. Enforcing limits at a young age and giving kids the choice to stay in the limits or step out of them (within reason) helps them develop self control.
Delay gratification and reward self control
When teaching self control it is important to reward kids for waiting, for finishing the task, and for their hard work over time. In today’s society, instant gratification is becoming the norm. By delaying the reward, kids have a goal to work towards and they feel a sense of accomplishment because they have worked towards and completed their goals. This method teaches not only self control, but builds self esteem and the emphasizes the value of hard work.
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Self control and Discipline
Quite often young children become upset when being disciplined. Teaching children to respond positively to correction helps build self control. Try these tips:
